Suffering a Sex Slump? Find out Here What kills Your Bedroom Mojo. • However, there are several things you can do to increase your libido • Small things like exhaustion and stress can decrease sex drive.

Stressful jobs, fractious relationships, parenting, that monotonous commute - all combine to rob us of desiring our partners. If sex is just another chore rather than something you look forward to, chances are one or more of the following is to blame. Pinpoint the problem, then keep reading for some practical solutions.

''Relationships problems: feeling frustrated, angry or resentful toward partner or guilty, sad or ashamed over something you've done to them can affect the intimacy between partners''.

Communication gaps is a major problem that affects sex between couples

Reasons why you don’t feel the ''hots''

Physical

·         A bad lover: monotonous techniques eventually leads to zero desire.

·         Exhaustion and stress

·         Poor general health or chronic illness

·         Excessive alcohol or drug abuse

·         A reaction to medication/recreational drugs

·         Depression

·         Low hormone levels.

·         Menopause, periods and pregnancy all alter our levels of desire.

·         Pelvic surgery (like hysterectomy) which has deadened nerve endings in the genital region.

·         No chemistry with partner.

Emotional

·         Low self-esteem or low sexual self-esteem

·         A bad body image; not loving your body

·         Poor sex education

·         A traumatic, earlier sexual experience

·         A history of unsatisfactory sex.

·       A strict religious upbringing which taught us sex is ‘bad' and other negative sexual attitudes

·       Communication problems which stops us telling our partner what triggers, we need to tip us over the orgasm edge.

·         Lack of trust

·        Tension – unresolved relationship conflicts resulting it one or both of you withholding sex as a punishment.

All these problems can be resolved when there is two way communication between partners. Where there is trust, patience and love, these problems can be solved. Watch out for the concluding part tomorrow, however, it would be nice if we take time and really appreciate the factors that affect our sex lives and make concerted efforts with our partners in resolving them.

Feel free to drop your comments and contributions.

Main contribution by Tracy Cox